First, we must get a grip on what our fears really are, and the emotions, and almost as important, where they live in the body. Because our fears usually go back to some old, old place, unresolved since childhood, where we have made a grave error of understanding. We think we are unlovable, or we cannot trust life, or everybody leaves us, or we are bad, or that there is no salvation for us, whatever our particular pathos is.
When we’re under stress, our fears and emotions kick into that same old place, pushing that same old button in a particular place in our body. Over the years, our body begins to develop armoring in this place..the muscles become rigid and locked, or weakened, and then energy doesn’t flow thru. And instead of breathing in and out and processing the energy of the emotion and allowing it to roll thru the body like a wave and out, the armor blocks the energy and you have, commonly, a locked-up diaphragm keeping you from breathing deeply and flexibly.
The first thing that happens when we get scared is, we don’t breathe, or the breathing becomes shallow. That place just above your belly, where your lungs and your diaphragm pump your breath, are where your inner power and presence lie. They are also where trust lives, or lack of it. We get scared and don’t breathe, because we have lost our trust that everything is okay. An old lie has kicked in. But this program is about re-discovering our true nature. We are created in love, and we exist in love, not fear. No wonder fear blocks the divine blueprint of energy of the body.
Breathing is actually the greatest act of trust in the human experience—and perhaps the reason we have not mastered the art of living in space or undersea. Think of it: Every time you breathe in, and breathe out again—you are trusting that there will be another breath.
Breathing is the best way to show trust in this moment—that you can breathe in, and out, and trust that there will be another breath, that the emotion will pass, and you won’t die.
That you are okay in this moment. And you return to this moment.
The emotions settled for this moment, we turn to the mind, and sort out the weeds.
We call on good orderly direction for the mind. We examine facts. What exactly is the problem? What exactly is the likelihood of this problem occurring? Did my actions contribute to it? What did I do to contribute to it? What could I have done differently? What have I learned for next time?
Now, what can I do now to reclaim my personal power in the situation? Do I have control over any elements of this? I have control over my response—let me make a plan how to act in preparation, or in response. There, is that all I can do? Then, I have made a plan.
Now, I must take action. I must put the plan in motion. And I then actively surrender my fear and worry. This is the big test. Sometimes surrendering worry is a daily, hourly, moment by moment action. We may have been taught that worry is good, worry is a way to control life. Worry does nothing but create pictures of disaster in our mind. And remember, the mind is a powerful thing; what we focus on, we create. If our mind is constantly visioning pictures of worry, of disaster, our powerful minds may conjure up just those circumstances. That is why we must spend at least as much energy actively giving up worry, and retraining our attention to the positive, as we spent learning to worry. But giving up worry is a positive action within my control to take. I don’t need to worry, when I have constuctively anaylyzed the situation, and done what I could do about it. Now I let it go.
And how do I occupy my mind without the weeds of worry growing there?
I change the focus. I jump back into this moment here now.
I do something creative and move into that creating space. I do something physically mindful, like swim laps or wash the car, and spend time in that moment with the water. I go into nature, and feel the trees and breeze and flowers. I go to art, and gaze into that space of color and form. I connect with another human being and I spend time with them there in that space between us..Or I do something for someone else without them even knowing it, and enter that good-elf space. Or, I pray or sing, and spend time in that sacred space.
Or maybe, I let my mind rest, and allow it to be spoken to by a higher mind.
A beautiful theory teaches that we live in between the breaths of God.
If this is so, we live in the ultimate safety.
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